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I am pretty nice to the kids in my neighbourhood, and I think they're adorable and all. But I'm starting to get REAL annoyed, it's like I'm a kid magnet and they won't leave me alone. Seriously, no joke. They ring my door-bell right after they come home from school and they want me to play with them or take them to the park.. or they want to come inside my home and watch TV together or bake something together.
I don't mind it sometimes but I can't spend every minute of my day with them EVERY DAY. I go to school, I have work, and I need my own personal time. I think my issue is that I don't know how to say "no" and I feel like I'm being a bad person if I say no to them. But even if I say "oh no, not right now." They keep pestering me, and pestering me. What should I do? What can I do to create boundaries with them?
I can't even sit or eat in my backyward without them running over and invading my backyard.
Talk to their parents. I can understand how hard it is to turn a kid away, but telling the parents that you need more private time will be a good way for them to take care of the dirty work. They can be the ones to set boundaries for when it is appropriate to visit you and when it is not based on your agreement with them.
Tell the parents that there are only certain days of the week that you are available and have the parent call you beforehand to make sure that you are up to having visitors.
(Rating: 5) Thanks, your advice is useful but for me practically.. I'm not sure if I even have the guts to say that to them. I feel like I'm being really offensive, and I don't want to offend them. I feel like if I tell them they are going to get offended.