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I had a new guy date over to my house for dinner and wine for our third date.
We spoke of sex. I said that I wanted to wait. I am 39 he is 37 and we met in a dating site.
We had two great dates out previously. We have been very attracted to
each other. Is it a bad thing that when he came over he gave me
aassage and Oral and I gave him only a hand job. We came together. He seemed distant and sleepy. We fell asleep together but he never cuddled me. He got up and dressed to
leave. He said he will call me later. He was leaving I stopped him for a kiss and a hug and he left. Was it too soon?

The only way you will know if it was too soon is if he doesn't call you, reply or get back to you OR if you talk to him about what happened and find out if he wanted more than just sex. I don't think it was necessarily a bad thing. I just see it as you made your decisions and now you have to see where it goes from there. Maybe he had things on his mind, which is why he wasn't going to hug or kiss you goodbye.. talk to him, go on another date WithOUt sex and then see what happens. Sometimes sex just happens without us foreseeing it, sounds dumb but it's true And the only way to figure out why, is to wait and see... I'm glad you stopped him to hug and kiss him, cuz even though he didn't cuddle you, he needs to know that it mattered to you. Talk to him about how you are feeling and give the relationship time to develop

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(Rating: 5) Well, I have good news and bad news. The bad news is that even though there were no sores and even though I made him use a condom (for the mess) I got herpes from giving him a hand job. :( The good news is it is on my hand and not my crotch, but that isn't much good news.

Oh, and he never called again because I didn't put out.
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