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If I had a dollar for every question that I see regarding the function of the female reproductive system, I'd still be poor because the dollar is turning into a banana republic toilet paper currency due to inflation. I've done a lot of cool things involving guns, helicopters, explosives, parachutes, tanks, humvees, artillery, radios, and 12 hour plane flights. If you seriously want to know more about me, find another hobby because I already told you the good parts. Airborne Armor Leads The Way.
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I took an at home pregnancy test 3 days ago, and it was positive. I instantly began crying, and have rarely stopped. I am 21, and my husband of 1.5 months is 23. I am in my senior year of college, and my husband just joined the army, and we just moved to our first duty station. I cannot stop crying, because I have always wanted to have a career before having kids. It was my dream as a child to be a pilot, and in September I decided I wanted to join the Army to achieve my dreams. But having a kid right now pretty much ruins my chances, and there is no other plausible way for me to become a pilot.
I started to talk to my husband about possibly having an abortion, and he said he would support me in whatever decision I came to, but he also said he would probably view me differently. I know that having an abortion is the right decision for me; it is only when I think about it, that I stop crying. But the thought of my husband viewing me differently, and possibly growing to resent me, that makes this decision extremely hard for me. And it is not just giving up on my dreams that haunts me, I also feel that having a baby now isn't what is best for me, and I know if I keep it, I will grow to resent my husband for having the career of his choice.
I am looking for advice, support, or thoughts of who I should talk to in order to figure out the best course of action.
I'll say this first- do what you need to do. second- what about having a kid is preventing you from becoming a pilot in the army? If you kept the kid, take a few months to bust yourself back into shape, go to OCS, then head to Rucker for flight school. He can get a compassionate reassignment to Fort Rucker while you're there, and it's what's called a "Gentleman's Course". you can go home every night and be with your family. Trust me, the Army, for all the hype, will take care of you and yours. The only difference being that only one of you can be deployed at a time, so if your aviation Battalion gets shipped off to the sandbox at the same time as his unit, one of you will stay back on Rear Detachment.
In any case, no matter what you decide to do, The Army's got a ridiculous amount of resources available for you. just contact the family life center.
If you have any more questions, either hit me up, talk with the garrison chaplain, family life counsellors, FRG leaders, the list is nearly endless. above all, know that you and your husband will never be alone as long as you're in the military.
good luck, Rangers Lead The Way.
-Gunner
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Thanks Ranger. I did not know about all the family services until you pointed them out! THANK YOU!
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