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Hi. I've lived quite a life since childhood. My parents divorced when I was 14. I was married at 19 and only lasted about a year and a half. Then I really explored my sexual side because I thought I was a failure with my parents and my own love life. For a while during that time, I thought I was going to become a lesbian because I was feed up with men. I traveled around the country and stayed at different relatives homes for a while. I even tried college for a short time but always felt lost. I finally settled down at 30 with a decent, loving man, that treats me well. I hope that I can help you if you decide to come to me for advice.
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I'm a female who has for the most part lived a heterosexual lifestyle although I identify as bisexual.
Recently, I have increasingly developed feelings for a close female friend. I think she's straight and she has told me about guys she likes on occasion but she rarely discusses her relationships with people.
We have a very loving friendship and she is very tactile with me. Sometimes I wonder if perhaps she feels the same way about me but I am terrified of saying anything to her.
What should I do?
Technically you're only bi-curious until you have sex with another girl, then you'll become bisexual. You can start telling her about a few female friends that you know who've slept with other girls and see what her reaction is. Let it slip that one of those girls wanted to hook up with you and you considered it but you weren't that attracted to her. Let her know you're attracted to someone more like her and see what she says. There's also the sleep over approach. Play a little truth or dare and see how she plays along with some risky dares. If she refuses just blame it on the game but if she agrees, then you can move forward. If you need any other help, please let me know. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Oh so does that mean technically you're only heterocurious until you sleep with a guy? You can be sexually attracted to someone without having sex with them. Also, I never said that I hadn't had sex with a girl, which I have. I feel like your answer focussed entirely on the sexual aspect rather than having genuine feelings for her. I don't want to just 'hook up' with her. But thanks for your advice.
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