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Hi, i've been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months now, and we're very serious. We've talked about marriage and living together forever, and i've never been so sure about being with someone. We may be young but i know for a fact that i could be with him forever.
Anyways, my problem is, my two worst enemies are both his most obsessive ex girlfriends. multiple times have i caught him still talking/flirting with other girls including them, but also not on just his part, they're also the ones who engage. it's been months since something like this has happened, but recently when i was away he was at a party and one of the girls happened to be there. rumors started to spread and there was a bunch of he said she said. but now i know for a fact that he was talking to her and offering her a ride home and trying to hang out with the other girl as well. i told him the last time something like this happened that this time, we were over and there was nothing he could do to stop it. but when we were talking about it, after he picked me up from work, i told him we were over and i was going to get his stuff so he could take it back. but he chased after me and grabbed a hold of me and told me how much i meant to him and he literally couldnt live without me. he was bawling his eyes out and said earlier that day when i texted him and told him we were over and that i didnt even want to see him that he sat down at work and cried his eyes out. i've never seen him so upset before, i didn't know what to do. so i just decided to lay it off for now. but i feel like im betraying myself and im disappointed that i couldnt follow through on my word..
sorry if this is too long, i just want to know what anyone else would do in this sort of situation if they truly love someone as much as i love him...and if you think i'm making the right decision by staying with him. thank you very much for any replies, its greatly appreciated
Don't let him emotionally blackmail you into staying together. All you are doing is teaching him that it's ok for him to mess around because all he has to do is turn on the waterworks and you'll come running back. If he couldn't live without you he wouldn't be risking your relationship ending by hanging out with all these other girls. In my experience, once a cheat, always a cheat. If you really love this guy then give him one last chance - but if anything happens, you leave. Make sure he knows what the consequences are.
(Rating: 5) thank you very much. its not that he can just come back crying to me and ill forgive him. i made it very clear that he was beyond lucky to be getting another chance, and not to take me for granted anymore, because he makes me look like an idiot. i do really love him, but i cant say once a cheat always a cheat. because ive cheated once before too, and never have again. but thank you very much