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my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and we've had alot of "trust issues' eventually i found out that he was cheating on me with another girl so of course i confronted him about it, but he denied the whole thing and said he just firted with her he then confessed everything he ever did during the course of our relationship, he says that he just flirted with girls but i don't believe that this is true, he said that the only reason he did this was because he found out i was flirting with other guys behind his back, but he also cheated before he found out about this, i know it was wrong of me to flirt with other guys but i thought we looked past that but it seems we didn't because he told me that he "got close" with one of his friends too, i guess the reason i'm still with him is because he confessed everything and we could start again, but i'm still uncertain, what if he does it again? i love him so much but i don't trust him at all please help me

In my experience, when people (male or female) give a big "confession," it is usually because you are close to finding something out, so they orchestrate some moving tell all to come out ahead of it. This is not to say that your boyfriend is not being sincere, but if he is, he is one in a thousand, because most of the time, it's a runaround...he's backed into the corner. I would think the thing that is making you think he's telling the truth is because he has admitted more than he had to by telling you he has gotten "close" with another girl, but I would bet if you scratched the surface on the girl he's talking about, you will find that they have more than "gotten close." Typically, people who cheat try to turn it around on the other person. He is telling you he only flirted because he heard you flirted with other people, but wait a minute...didn't you just hear about him and some other people? Did that information make you go out and seek revenge by doing it too? No; you went and confronted him about it, which is what any person would do if they heard something about their partner. I can't tell you what to do...plenty of people (again, male and female) stay with someone after they have cheated, and sometimes it even works, but you gotta at least be honest with yourself--chances are, if you feel like there's something going on, than there's something going on.
Only you can decide what to do from here, but give your own inner feelings more trust than you give what comes out of his mouth right now.

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