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This guy I love is 24 and in special needs. He is at my level of thinking and is an amazing guy, funny sweet caring and everything I want in a guy. But like I said he's 24 and no one thinks I should have anything to do with him. But if he thinks like an 8th grader its ok right? What do I do?????! Idk if he even loves me, but he's given me gifts so.........???????!!!!

I am sorry to say that I have to agree with those who tell you not to date him. Regardless of his disability, it is illegal for a twenty-four year old to have a relationship with anyone under 18, and he could potentially get in a lot of trouble, and it wouldn't even be his fault. Plus, you have got to remember that there is no way this relationship can work out long term; I know you love him now, but you are going to mature, and he is not. You are going to want a family and kids one day, and he probably will never have the mental capacity to do that. Even though you won't mean to, you will really break his heart, and he will suffer self-esteem issues because he will blame it on his disability. In this situation you have to be the mature one and make the right decison. If you don't date him than the two of you can be friends forever...you can always be in his life, and he will always love you and value you. If you do date, it will end badly, you will both be hurt, and you will probably lose him as a friend forever.

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