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I'm 18, and female.
I've never been on a date, and i've never had a boyfriend. Is that normal for someone my age?
I'm told i'm pretty, and I know I have a good personality. I have a lot of close friends. I do a lot of community service and work with my church... i'm the type of person that just loves to help people, and I love most everyone I meet. I'm great with people.
But i've never been asked out... My best friend says it's because my heart is closed... I don't know if I believe her though... I really want a relationship more than anything. I'm self-conscious, but I don't think I let that get in my way... But no one i've liked has ever liked me back.
I guess i'm just wondering what's wrong with me. All of my friends have had multiple boyfriends, and i've never even had anyone interested in me. Not that I know of... I mean, i've never really flirted or put myself out there, but still... it scares me.
I was just like you when I was younger, I never had a boyfriend and all my friends did. It was a combination of factors, mainly to do with my self-confidence but also because I had high standards so subconsciously/consciously I wasn't letting boys in. The more you worry about it, the more "desperate" you get - boys can sense this a mile away and it scares them off. Try to focus on doing things that make you happy, forget about boys if you can. Don't see every boy you meet as a potential, just a friend. Once you are truly happy in yourself, they will be lining up for you.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much! That makes me feel so much better! =)