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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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My ex and I broke up about 4 months ago and we recently started talking again. We started texting again and we were friendly with one another. Then he became flirty and honestly, whenever we held those flirty conversations, those lasted the longest. He asked me if I wanted to continue being that way with him and I decided to test it and see if he had feelings for me and he told me that he has learned to control his feelings. Clearly that meant he's over me, or that he's trying very hard to. I don't know why he would ask me to do something like this. We did establish that we are very comfortable with one another but I only agreed because I wanted to see how far it would go. He was my first boyfriend and the only guy I've ever been really physical with and because we have broken up with issues, I'm not sure if I can be "friends with benefits" with him, but he seems to be completely fine. What does this mean? Oh, when we first started talking again, he did apologize for some of the stuff that happened in our relationship. But one of the last things we said to one other was that I didnt want to go on with the "benefits" part because I didn't want it hindering my feelings I would have for anyone else.
It seems as if you both still have some sort of feelings going on for eachother.. My advice is to wait a bit and see where it goes and if nothing changes or it gets worse than you should just remain friends or move on... but something might get better and more romantic, if something starts to change and you two become more romantically involved than sit down with him and talk to him about how you are feeling and decide if the two of you should take a step forward and become more serious good luck hope all works out for you and remember if it doesnt work out with him there will always be someone else waiting for you
(Rating: 5) thanks :D
though i kinda told him that i didnt want to have such a relationship like that with him considering we're not together and I didn't want him to hinder my feelings for anyone. He barely talks to me now, so I guess that was the only thing he was interested in.