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Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this?

Hey,
I believe the reason why you kissed is cuz in that moment you felt connected. You knew what the other person was going through and related to eachothers emotions (after the break ups). Being caught up in all of it, you both realized you had simular expiriences and so you kissed. It happens.


You shouldn`t feel weird about it. Even though it may have seemed disgusting after the fact, you both just did what you felt... it wasn`t stupid and it never will be. I think the disgusting part came in when you thought about your ex and realized you just kissed another guy for a reason you were unaware of. Having that kiss could change things; you or this guy could develop feelings towards one another, you might feel as if you want some space from eachother or nothing could change. It all depends on how both of you interpreted the kiss and how you want to act on it. To me it seems as if this guy is pretty easy going and that you two had `got` eachother.


If you want to forget about it and move on, you can. But If in the future you start developing some feelings, then maybe just go with it. He seems like an honest guy. Of course I don`t know him personally as you do, but I think if he made a promise he should be able to keep his word. Again, if you feel wary, talk to him calmly, say you love being friends with him, but you don`t want to make anything of the kiss... unless you decide you want to (of course). I think he understood this when he made the promise, but its always nice to have confirmity.

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