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Hey :)
okay. I have been with my wonderful boyfriend for 2 months now. We are very close but i am still a virgin as i don't want to rush things. He has admitted to me that he wants to go further but is very caring and patient :) recently we got into a conversation about what would happen if i ever got pregnant,and when i asked him if he would stand by me, i was shocked at how hesitant he was to reply. He came out with things like, 'i'd probably jump off a cliff' and 'i don't know'.
I think it's an honourable thing for a man to stick by his baby's mama and even though i'm not planning on losing my virginity or getting pregnant any time soon, it still bums me out to hear him say that :( should i let it pass as a joke or doubt his character?

It doesn't make him a bad guy, he was honest with you. If you had been together for two years, where you know your deeply in love with eachother - then maybe yes. But two months? You can't expect him to say he's there, and ready for that commitment if that happened. He wasn't thinking about you, but more about the position he'd be in, and why shouldn't he? I'm sure he agrees himself a man should stick to his woman if she is pregnant, but also will feel like all the plans he made would be put on hold, alongside the predicted lack of support from parents etc. Don't worry about his reaction, give it time and if you are together for a longer while, I'm sure he will change is mind. I know from experience.

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(Rating: 5) You're right, it would affect him more than i could understand. I didn't just come out with that question though, we were discussing it. But thanks, i aooreciate it xx
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