about

advice

i'm 18 female and my parents and boyfriend and best friend are all talking to me about the future. At first it was ok but now i feel like its gotten way out of hand and i feel like i'm about to lose it!

my parents are talking to me about college (which is fine because i already know what college i'm going to) but then they were talking about moving and studying abroad and studying international school and living there when i'm older like 2 or 3 years from now.

my boyfriend was talking to me about our future together. at first that was fine because i thought it was cute that he wanted to stay together when i was in college. but now he's talking about marriage and where we would live and kids etc. i'm freaking just a kid still!!! i feel like i'm so overwhelmed with him talking about the future and i haven't really given it a thought but it hurts my brain to think about the future

my best friend was talking to me about college (that was fine because we were discussing which colleges we were going to) but then she started talking about how when we are older we could travel together and get an apartment together and be roommates and do everything together. at first i was fine with it because she is my best friend and we are like sisters and i can't imagine life without her.. but now its just weird how we are basically planning our future..

i dont know if i'm overreacting but i just feel so overwhelmed with everything. i do have a lot of stress in my life, so that could be a factor. but i just feel so stressed and anxiety and i wish i could scream at people! help what do i do?

Hi,
You should know that the present will help you get to the future. Without that, there is no future. Sure it is nice knowing what the future may hold, but I'm sure you also know that the future isn't that near and all these things floating in your mind are just ideas. Nobody ever knows what can happen tomorrow or where you will be in two years. All you should think about is the present and how you will work to get to where you would like to be in the future. It is alright to imagine. There is no set goals in life, until that point in time shows up. Live/deal with what you have in front of you now and then live in the moment you have in the future.

Tell your boyfriend and friend that they have great ideas, but you'll see. And take the time to try and imagine what they imagine, just for a moment; you may like the thought. Only time can tell what will happen. Enjoy the life you have, relax, and do the fun things you can while you can. You should live your lovely teenage life while its still here. Soak yourself in a hot bubblebath and know that even though these people have ideas to put in your brain, you are ultimately the one that controls them

[view]

(Rating: 5) thank you! :)
<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker