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Q: i'm 18 female and my parents and boyfriend and best friend are all talking to me about the future. At first it was ok but now i feel like its gotten way out of hand and i feel like i'm about to lose it!

my parents are talking to me about college (which is fine because i already know what college i'm going to) but then they were talking about moving and studying abroad and studying international school and living there when i'm older like 2 or 3 years from now.

my boyfriend was talking to me about our future together. at first that was fine because i thought it was cute that he wanted to stay together when i was in college. but now he's talking about marriage and where we would live and kids etc. i'm freaking just a kid still!!! i feel like i'm so overwhelmed with him talking about the future and i haven't really given it a thought but it hurts my brain to think about the future

my best friend was talking to me about college (that was fine because we were discussing which colleges we were going to) but then she started talking about how when we are older we could travel together and get an apartment together and be roommates and do everything together. at first i was fine with it because she is my best friend and we are like sisters and i can't imagine life without her.. but now its just weird how we are basically planning our future..

i dont know if i'm overreacting but i just feel so overwhelmed with everything. i do have a lot of stress in my life, so that could be a factor. but i just feel so stressed and anxiety and i wish i could scream at people! help what do i do?
You need to tell everyone how you're feeling.

Granted, take it from someone who's trucking out this whole college path alone; but tell your parents you want to take everything one step at a time. If you do want to study abroad, yes you need to start looking/planning now, but if they're moving too fast with it all tell them that you appreciate their help and confidence in you but that you need to let the big step of college set it for a little bit.

For your boyfriend, if you love him and want to be with him, let him know. Tell him how you feel. That you love him and love that he wants to stay with you but that you're far too young to be thinking about marriage and children. If you're thinking you want to move on and meet other guys, then you should tell him that as well.

And finally, for your best friend. You need to let her know that you love her to death and can't imagine not having her. But that you feel like the two of you need to live your own futures and explore your own destinys. You can stay best friends without being with each other forever.

Communication is key and I promise it will make you feel better.

ahh thank you! i'm definitally going to try communicating with them about how i feel and hopefully they will understand.

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