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Hi. I've lived quite a life since childhood. My parents divorced when I was 14. I was married at 19 and only lasted about a year and a half. Then I really explored my sexual side because I thought I was a failure with my parents and my own love life. For a while during that time, I thought I was going to become a lesbian because I was feed up with men. I traveled around the country and stayed at different relatives homes for a while. I even tried college for a short time but always felt lost. I finally settled down at 30 with a decent, loving man, that treats me well. I hope that I can help you if you decide to come to me for advice.
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Okay so i'm having some problems with sex..let me explain (im so sorry if this ends up long but I really need some advice)
So me and my boyfriend have been together over a year and we are both 17.
A few months ago we decided we were ready to have sex,however it didn't go to plan it was awkward and there was issues with the condom and so on it just wasn't the right time. We stopped and said we would do it properly another time.
So we did and it went better except it didn't really feel like anything to me! It didnt even hurt..it wasnt pleasurable it just wasnt anything.
I figured it would take time the more we did it the better we would feel.
Everytime we have done it since it just doesnt feel like anything and it makes me so frustrated.
When I say it doesnt feel like anything I mean I can feel him inside me but thats about it.
Ive had orgasms from him touching me and fingering me and that feeling is amazing but I cant get it from sex?Its upsetting me because its making me feel like im dysfunctional. I have never actually physically "cum" either. Ive gotten what I assume is an orgasm just like this intense feeling all through my body. Recently I was away in england with my boyfriend and we were going to have sex when I just broke down and started crying. I wanted to tell him so many times before but I didn't want to upset him because I knew he would think it was all his fault which he did..when I told him. I know its my body though I mean whats wrong with me!? why can't I feel anything why havnt I been able to cum?is there any other girls with similar problems.. this is really worrying me that I will never be able to enjoy sex I feel like such a fail.. and I wan't to enjoy it for my boyfriend to I wan't it to be fun and special but so far my experiences with it have been indifferent.
Please help!
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There is nothing wrong with you. The first thing you need to do is make sure you know what feels good on your body when you're alone. That will help you tell your bf what things he can do to make you feel good. The next thing to try is to slow down before you have sex. Try more foreplay, like extended kissing, slowly taking each others clothes off, having him caress your face and body and having him kiss you all over. Some of these things should get you stimulated more and mentally able to loosen up. Many women are not able to orgasm only from straight sex, so don't be discouraged. You can try using a powerful and small vibrator on your clit while he is inside of you. Make sure he knows that using a vibrator is no reflection on his performance but merely an aid to bring pleasure to you. Feel free to ask me anything in the future. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Thank you so much. This definitely helped and I will try the things you said :) I have told him to go slow doing all these things before but he doesn't do it long enough but il tell him.
Thanks again!
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