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Well i used to be really really jealous and me and my boyfriend of four years broke up because of it, because he kept lying to not hurt me, and it bothered me when he watched porn and stuff, but later he begged me back and he said he loved me & wanted me back. So now that we were together i asked him not to look at porn and if he wanted pictures or something i would send him some and even though i'm trying to get un-jealous like before i wouldn't let him go out without me(yeah i was psycho lol) but now i let get him get away with a lot but i still have jealous thoughts every once in a while, so the day before i wanted my moms number that he had on his phone and i had just gotten a new phone so i asked him for it and he didn't want to give it to me so i got suspicions? And i was like are you doing something wrong? Later he admitted he had porn on it, and i got kinda upset in my head, and later i couldn't stop thinking about it and i was sad and basically said told him i know it's because they look better or you fantasize about other girls but i was saying it not asking it.It was really supposed to be a rhetorical question. And he said well i do fantasize about other girls cause you're the only one i've been with, ( i told him he wasn't supposed to answer and he said he didn't know) and that hurt me really bad and i was like so you'd go with another girl and do her and he said "i just want to" and i was like so you do want to, and he said yeah. Like is that normal? Should i be mad or break up with him? Like now it disgusts me cause we're not even married like i know that happens to married people that have been together for a long time, but us i'm young i have the same body as the porn stars except without the fake big boobs mine are real so i just don't know how to react or what to do. i Just hung up on him cause without saying anything cause this happened right before he went into work so he didn't call back.
Please just tell me your opinions.

Hey there,
No, for the most part it isn't wrong for a guy to fantasize about other girls. Guys tend to have something in their brain that forces them think about other girls and therefore they like to imagine being with them.. which is completely normal. But, if he is not sharing what he is doing with you.. such as: doing things behind your back, actually being with someone else, lying to you, and not treating you right.. then you should be calling him out and asking 'why are you doing that?' or say 'I'd like it if you stopped that... Now'.

You shouldn't be mad, you should just talk to him about it and let him know it really bothers you. He probably won't stop doing it completely, but you could ask him to look at it in private and to not bring up the subject/comment on other girls when you are around. He should be treating you with respect and care about how you feel inside. Yes, guys will make comments about other girls and if he does that, tell him straight that you don't appreciate it.

An honest guy will listen to you and put an effort into what you ask him. Do not break up with him over this, unless he continues to lie and do it behind your back. And please, don't compare yourself to a porn star, you are much better than that. He should listen to what you say and work with you to make things better... If a guy doesn't do this, he is not the right guy for you

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