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Q: Well i used to be really really jealous and me and my boyfriend of four years broke up because of it, because he kept lying to not hurt me, and it bothered me when he watched porn and stuff, but later he begged me back and he said he loved me & wanted me back. So now that we were together i asked him not to look at porn and if he wanted pictures or something i would send him some and even though i'm trying to get un-jealous like before i wouldn't let him go out without me(yeah i was psycho lol) but now i let get him get away with a lot but i still have jealous thoughts every once in a while, so the day before i wanted my moms number that he had on his phone and i had just gotten a new phone so i asked him for it and he didn't want to give it to me so i got suspicions? And i was like are you doing something wrong? Later he admitted he had porn on it, and i got kinda upset in my head, and later i couldn't stop thinking about it and i was sad and basically said told him i know it's because they look better or you fantasize about other girls but i was saying it not asking it.It was really supposed to be a rhetorical question. And he said well i do fantasize about other girls cause you're the only one i've been with, ( i told him he wasn't supposed to answer and he said he didn't know) and that hurt me really bad and i was like so you'd go with another girl and do her and he said "i just want to" and i was like so you do want to, and he said yeah. Like is that normal? Should i be mad or break up with him? Like now it disgusts me cause we're not even married like i know that happens to married people that have been together for a long time, but us i'm young i have the same body as the porn stars except without the fake big boobs mine are real so i just don't know how to react or what to do. i Just hung up on him cause without saying anything cause this happened right before he went into work so he didn't call back.
Please just tell me your opinions.

I don't agree with the below poster really, most guys that you ask will tell you that they get turned on by porn, that doesn't make them addicted to it. Its a boy thing, my husband likes porn, and its normal to fantasize about other people. I mean I'm sure you think about hot celebs sometimes, most people do. Maybe you should try watching some porn with him, role play some of the scenes from the porn, try and understand where he is coming from. There is no reason to jump to conclusions about porn addiction or that he is cheating, wants to cheat, etc. Just because he fantasizes about other women and likes porn doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. Does he still act the same? Are you sexually active, if so has your routine changed any?
I think you should call him back and try to talk to him about it, and I mean really sit down and talk to him, listen and try to understand where he is coming from.
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Thanks, wow i even ran to my mom for advice and it think i understood what you had to say better, well not our sex life didn't change but it's kinda hard to understand why it is normal, but it is the way it is:) thank you!

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