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18/f my friend Deliah is 17 and I think she is goin to get hurt. She met this guy when we were at this water park. We were staying there over night and he was the concierge. She talked to him and at first we were all just kidding around, next
thing I know she asks for his number. He's 21 and is really weird. He's rude and I don't trust him. I just don't get a good vibe. Also, he told her how his last girlfriend was a stripper. The one before that cheated on him three times. Then, he says he's in college but not going right now at all, because he is waiting for one specific class. She called him one day at like 2 and he was like why'd you call you woke me up. And she was like why aren't you up yet. And he's like because I always wake up at 3. He sounds like such a bum. Also, he lives an hour and a half away. He wants her to come down all the time. Deliah hasn't told her parents about him. Deliah is a realy really good girl, she's actually pretty prude, which gets annoying sometimes, but she's also a huge push over. I'm really worried about her safety. I knowthis is far fetched maybe, but what if he tries to rape her or something. I mean honestly, what does a 21 year old guy want to do with a 17 year old girl? She just turned 17 over a week ago too. He turns 22 soon. I like older guys too. But not that old, and I'm also 18. At least i'm considered an adult. I know I can't force her to do or not do anything, but what should I say? How should I say it? My other best fried who is very close to deliah also wants to say something


Hey there,
Based on what you've told me, I believe Deliah isn't really thinking things through. I am glad you care about her and want the best for her. The only way you are going to get her to look at the situation differently, is if you let her know that this probably isn't the right guy for her. Say to her 'are you sure you are hitting it off with this guy?' or 'maybe he isn't the right guy for you'. You should say it firmly and make sure that she knows you aren't trying to get rid of him; just trying to help her make the right decision. I am sure she is an intelligent girl, so let her know she should really think about what she is doing first and not just see him because she can. Let her know she can meet guys who she will relate to on a better level. If you have already got a bad vibe from him, that is not a good sign. Always trust your instincts and let others (Deliah) know how you feel. Once she thinks it over, I'm sure she will make the right decision

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(Rating: 5) Thanks, yeah abd he says how he's a 'millionaire' but then yet he works as a concierge at a water park. Ha, I just don't trust him at all.
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