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i am depressed. i dont know why but i am. i just cant help but dislike everyone and i cant seem to find joy in anything lately. i am not usually like this. whenever im home alone im miserable, but at the same time i dont feel like seeing anybody.
i recently broke up with my boyfriend so im guessing thats a big part of it, even though i was the one who broke it off. i find myself wanting to go back to the relationship, but i feel like maybe if i get through this depressed stage ill be able to realize that i broke up with him for a reason. or maybe i just need him in my life.
any ideas on what would make me happy? im trying to keep away from music that reminds me of him but even the most irrelevant songs do. any ideas? thanks
My suggestion to you is to think about what your life was like before your boyfriend was in it. Maybe you can reconnect with some of the friends you may have lost touch with, or pick up on an old hobby you used to love. If these things aren't applicable, then it's time to make some new friends and get out and have a great time with them. It's hard to motivate yourself to get out and "have fun" when you're feeling depressed, though. I understand.
It sounds like you would feel more comfortable staying at home right now instead of going out with friends, but if you're home make sure you keep yourself loaded with fun things to do so that you don't let your mind focus on the depressing parts of your life. Rent a season of a new tv show (try looking for dvds of popular tv shows at the library or a movie rental store) and have a marathon. Bake cupcakes or brownies from scratch. Go back-to-school shopping. Take a long walk around your neighborhood. Make something super creative. Do some yoga or pilates moves. All of these things can be fun, somewhat productive, and will hopefully keep your mind in the right place and make you feel better than you do right now.
Music can be a good way to cope with depression - but it can be hard when certain songs remind you of a special person...especially a guy. Even though some songs are making you feel sad and are a reminder that you've lost him, sometimes it can help to crank up your iPod and cry your eyes out. That's what I feel like doing the most when I feel depressed; I don't know about you, but afterward I always feel a little bit better. Sometimes it helps to cry and feel upset about it. It's better than bottling that all up or pretending to be happy.
It sounds like your boyfriend was a huge part of your life, and that's probably why it's so hard to let go. But you even said that you broke up with him for a reason, so don't let yourself get confused into thinking that you have to be with him to be happy. Think of your breakup as more of an opportunity to find something (whether it be a hobby, an activity or even just being at peace with yourself) that really makes you happy. Just because you aren't walking on sunshine right now doesn't mean that your life is always going to be like this. It can only get better from here! Good luck.
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THANKS amazing advice
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