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My girlfriend and I as of 11 months July27, are having an issue. There's this guy I CANT STAND. He's done a lot of things I can't stand him for, (they went out a long time ago for one) I know thats a stupid reason to dislike him and I guess I dont really hate him for it. It just makes me feel iffy but anyway, I was having a convo with him one day and he started calling me a "fucking retard" jokingly, I explained to him that it bothers me a lot and to please not do that because I have a 19 year old sister to whom is mentally challenged and its mean to speak of people with disabilities as a joke. After I explained all that to him he told me "get over it you big baby" and started laughing, we got in a fight and basically I want to kick his ass.. Hes always "harmlessly" trying to flirt with her. I trust her 100% I swear on my life I love her like no other. I just cant stand him. He also tried to "nibble" her neck while her and I were going out for 2 months. Is it to much for me to ask for her to just stop talking to him? I asked her not to and she keeps talking to him and he she says that im wrong for not trying to talk to him

Hey,
No, it is not too much to ask her to stop talking to her. You two are together, not him and her, but this guy is her friend. You cannot really stop a girl from having her friends, so she should at least be able to talk to him.

When she does something as if she is in a relationship with him (letting him nibble on her, kissing, or any touching), then you should talk to her and say "I really don't appreciate when you do ______", and be serious. If she doesn't listen, tell her 'if she loves you she wouldn't be so rude to you'. If you don't want to talk to the guy because you feel hate inside, then don't. If he smartens up, try to talk to him. At least let your girl know what this guy said to you. It will help her understand how you feel about him.

If she doesn't change her act, maybe it is time to move on. Since you do really love her, keep trying to talk some sense into her (nicely, by discussing problems). Eventually she will listen; it will take time and rough patches, but it is possible

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(Rating: 5) I should have put that we already talked about this, and she keeps justifying him... :( and we've talked about this at length.. Shes going to be my Wife some day.. and well that will make my sister "in a way" her sister.. and it hurts that it seems like that was nothing to her... I don't know I hate that he flirts with her all the time, I'm not stupid I know what it looks like when a guy is trying to flirt with a girl even if she thinks its just harmless talking and what not but EVEN if he didn't flirt with her... he tried doing that to her while we were going out.. + he said that about my sister... and it just really hurts me that she always puts him before me. She said she wouldn't do it any more about a few weeks back, that lasted about 15 hours =\
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