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I am a 20 year old woman and my boyfriend is 21. We have been togeather for 5 years and living togeather for 3 years. He has always said how much easier it would be if we lived in seperate houses, because we are constantly arguing over who's turn it is to clean what, and he drinks quite a bit. Now recently he is saying he feels like he holds me back and i could make something of myself if i never met him. I explain it wasn't him that changed me but at the same time i think he might have. We have to live togeather because right now finacially we can't afford not too, but i have all of these thoughts swirling in my head. I feel as if i am not getting anything but mixed signals. I love this man with all my heart and i know he loves me but i'm not quite sure we are "in love" anymore. The only thing that scares me is this was my first boyfriend and i couldn't imagine having anyone else by my side for the rest of my life. What do i do!!! (link)
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you stay with him and work something out.even if you have to make a roster.this isnt soemthing huge to argue over.it doesnt matter who cleans what.
you have been together for 5years thats a long time ofcourse it wont feel like it was the first time you guys started dating because at that time you were still getting to know him and excited to see him.
go on dates,go out to dinner, watch movies together.try and surprise eachother now and then
just because the hunny moon stage is over doesnt mean your relationship should be over too.to be honest i praise you for being with someone for 5years some people cant even do a year.
talk to him about it.it seems you both have an open relationship so talk to him and tell him you wnat to go out on dates and be surprised and you need to do the same to him
but whayever you do dont breakup unless your reallly not happy
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I am happy most of the time but i feel as if he isn't anymore. We have tried the whole rostor thing before it didn't really work. Cleaning isn't the only arguement we have, i seem to be sitting at home every night while he hangs out with his friends. We all used to hang out togeather but it was just too much i can't stand to be around all men all of the time. I work with all men all day and at least one of his friends have lived with us since day one until now. I just feel like anymore drinking with his buddies comes before spending time with me. We occaisonally will go to eat lunch but that's were it ends, to him thats enough time to spend togeather since we live togeather. Honestly the only time i see him at home is before he goes to work ( he works 3rd shift) and on his days off at night after he is already drunk. To me he is the sweetest man in the world when he is sober but when he is drunk he dosen't care. He isn't really the most romantic either if it dosen't sound just a little bit apealing to him he refuses to do it.I am just worn out!
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