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Q: Tell me if this is normal because i'm freaking out.

I'm a 17 year old girl. Junior in High school. I still can't wear tampons. Is that bad?? I only wear pads and i've tried soooooo many times to try tampons but they hurt too badly and feel weird all the time and i just overall hate them. I feel so different. like other girls can handle sex and stuff, but i can barely put in a tampon! is something wrong with me?? It will be a year with my boyfriend in May and he's always wondering why I don't want him to finger me. If i tell him, or anybody for that matter, i'll be so embarrassed and feel like i'm so different than everybody.

Helppp i'm desperate.. everytime i try, i start crying in frustration because it NEVER works out. I get about an inch in, and then it starts to feel weird and gross.

If it helps, i'm terrified of needles. so i think that putting in a tampon reminds me of a needle going in me. do you think that could be a reason??
There is absolutely no reason for you to feel awkward or weird about not being comfortable with tampons. I hate tampons and refuse to wear them, but I am married and do have sex, the 2 really don't matter together. Just because you are uncomfortable with tampons doesn't mean you will be as uncomfortable with sex, or your boyfriend fingering you.
Don't get so worked up about, use whatever works for you, if thats pads then so be it. It's really not that strange for some girls to not like tampons, I knew quite a few girls in highschool who preferred pads. Everyone is different and there is no reason for you to be embarrassed, just be who you are comfortable with. I'm sure your boyfriend won't think that you are weird if you just tell him that you don't like tampons and that in turn makes you nervous about things in the sexual area, like getting fingered.
Hope I Helped :)

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