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i just got out of a bad two year relationship a month ago. he cheated on me so i dumped him but i was going to wait to date again but i think im ready to start dating again but just dating not a serious relationship yet. iv turned down a few guys because i dont wana hurt my ex but how can i get him out of my head he hurt me i shouldnt wait if he never did, he even told me all about this new girl he went with so i got mad. now im not sure how to really flirt back to other guys just to see whos right. what are some sweet things to say or do to a guy friend youd like? and am i doing the right thing? (link)
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Your decision to start dating now or not should not be about your ex at all. You should not avoid dating because of his feelings, and you should not start dating because he "didnt wait."
Your decision to start dating or not should be based on one thing. Your state of readiness. Are you over him? If so, begin dating. If not, give yourself some time.
Here are some things I would like you to consider;
1) Most of your post about whether or not you should date involved your ex.
2) You said you got mad about him dating.
3)You were willing to hold off on dating to spare his feelings.
4) Your motivation to date now seems to be "payback" towards him.
All of these things make it seem as if you arent really over him. Give yourself some time. You need time to reflect about what went wrong in that relationship, what he did wrong, and maybe what you did wrong as well. Mistakes are fine, we all make them, but we need to learn from them. It is very hard to learn from our failed relationships if we dont give ourselves time to heal and think about them clearly once the emotions have settled.
I honestly dont think you are ready yet, and I think for your OWN sake you should wait.
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thanks thats actually perfectly what i needed
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