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So I'm the type of person that says "I love you" a lot. Like, my family's as dysfunctional as can be, but I always make sure to say it before I leave the house or hang up the phone. I say it to my best of friends whenever I say "bye," and whenever even an acquaintance makes me laugh or does something nice for me, I'm always like, "holy crap, I love you," and I mean it.
I met this guy in late September and we went on our first date less than two weeks after meeting. Because we talked nearly nonstop over text and IM, we were super, super comfortable with each other by the second date. We saw each other unofficially for four weeks and have been officially dating for nearly three weeks. This is my first serious relationship (I'm 16) though he's had a few girlfriends before me (he's 18).
I'm not one to overcomplicate love (obviously). You don't have to love everything about a person to love them. This guy is the sweetest-- he compliments me constantly, isn't afraid of PDA (romantic kisses goodbye, not makeout sessions), would do anything for me, and would never want to intentionally hurt me. He's not "in it to hit it" either-- he knows I'm abstaining until marriage and he's fine with that, and we didn't even kiss until the third date.
What I'm saying is, I know I love him, but is there a clear difference in the love you feel inside when loving someone as a person and loving someone romantically? He makes me happy, and I want to spend every second talking to him and just being with him. And I could not STAND to see him with another girl. But what qualifies love to be romantic rather than loving someone as a person? Have I already crossed it?
Also, how soon is "too soon" to say it? I know his family says it a lot too, and he says it to his family in front of me, so I know he's not uncomfortable saying it. But I don't want to freak him out.
Any advice whatsoever appreciated, or past experiences :) Thanks so much!
uhhh.... how about you wait a while, or better yet, let him say it first. I'm not good with this "love" word of which you speak, as I have never had any chick say it to me... so let's just go with some flawed assumptions on that sticky mess.
as for the nature of love, there is no tangible difference between romantic love and loving somebody as a person. they are the same thing, but with a different context and motive. there is, however, a difference between Loving somebody, and being infatuated with them. make sure you avoid that booby-trap...best method, again, would be to wait, see how it goes, and try letting him say it first.
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i was planning on letting him say it first :) thanks for your helpp
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