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Hi everyone! My pen name is Hannah and I am a 17-year-old girl. I like languages, friends, cats, and many other things. I really love giving advice, and I am studying psychology now. My favorite questions have to do with mental health. As I said above, I am taking psychology classes now, but I also do a lot of outside research, so chances are that if you say something to me about a disorder or anything like that, I will know what you are talking about. Although I am not a licensed psychologist, I hope to someday be one and I would love to get some practice here.

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I seriously need some help.
Ok, so 2 weeks ago... at the start of the school holidays, my boyfriend and I attended this party, everyone was piss wasted, and I was so out of it...
I don't remember a lot, but...

My boyfriend told me to make out with this really hot chick, so I did... Then this random dude was like, ALL over me... and He was kissing me and feeling me and shit.

And... my boyfriend saw and he was being all emo the rest of the night, I tried to make it up to him, but he wouldn't talk to me, like at all.

The next morning, I went to another state and went to another suburb... (like for the holidays)
I haven't seen him in two weeks, and just recently he's been talking to me online, asking me "if this is really working" and "if you wana break up, just say so."
-Does that mean he want's to breakup with me, but he doesn't want to do it? Like he wants me to dump him?


He says he doesn't trust me.
What can I do to gain his trust?
Probably nothing huh?

I just, hate this!
He makes me feel so shit about myself, all the
time. Like even before all this shit happened...
If he only know how much he was hurting me.

What should I do?
P L E A S E !
I'm so desperate.

Ok. Honey. Look at your last paragraph: "He makes me feel so shit about myself, all the time. Like even before all this shit happened." Are you sure it is a good idea to try to get him back? It could be different if this was a one time thing, and maybe the two of you were just having an issue right now. But it seems that this is the general pattern of this relationship, at least as far as the feelings go.

I don't know what he means when he says all those things to you. Maybe he thinks you want to break up with him and he wants you to just do it and get it over with. He sounds frustrated, but I am not so sure in what this stems from.

When the guy at the party was "all over you" were you all over him in return or were you really out of it? Because if you weren't even reciprocating his actions, your boyfriend shouldn't really be mad at you.

I would suggest drinking less at these parties. You know all the reasons people tell you, but in addition to that, you don't want to do something that you might regret. You don't want to be with another guy and have your boyfriend see and be upset about it. Stay in a mental state that will allow you to make clear judgments and be able to stop someone from doing something to you that isn't in your best interests.

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(Rating: 4) That dude was all over me, and I was Sooooo out of it. My boyfriend... just has issues with that, because he's been cheated on one time too many. He thinks I'm just gona run off with someone else. But I don't want to be with someone else.
Yeah, it's stupid, staying with him while he hits me and treats me like dirt. But I love him. I just want him back.
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