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19 female. i fell for a younger guy. he will soon be 18. whatever, the age difference doesn't bother me AT ALL.

but my problem is that .. he doesn't treat me very well :( i mean he doesnt physically abuse me or ANYTHING like that but he emotionally drains me. he's basically a player and has a way with words urrrgh sucky for me. we are close friends and i think thats just what i want to remain. i think it would be the best for me.. i'd rather be a good friend than just another girl. i didn't even tell him i liked him but i know it shows everytime i see him. i should be upset with him for what he put me through and acting like he "cared" about me more than a friend but he's just one of those guys you cant get mad at no matter what. i want that to change. i hate being SO nice. i'm sick of being stomped all over and beaten down because i'm like that. i always give in. everytime we see each other i fall for him all over again and i give him all the attention.. which is what he loves. he flirts with me tooo .. and its cute but i can't take it anymore. i guess i have a hard time though because i have a flirty personality.. bad. its how i am. i don't know the difference between acting like a good friend or having a crush on someone. how can i just act like a good friend around him without seeming standoff-ish and like i'm ignoring him. i know if he starts flirting with me i will do it back because i also love the attention but i wish i wouldn't. ugh i have a problem. how can i fix this.

Hi,
If he doesn't treat you well, the first thing you have to do is tell him that he doesn't treat you well. He probly does not even realize that he makes you feel this way, and if he does; more reason to tell him that you don't appreciate it! I know what you mean by 'I don't want to be another girl', and you shouldn't have to be. It kind of sucks that he is So nice, but it just comes naturally to some people. You have to let him know that he can't be playing every girl that he wants and if he does want to be with you he has to be 100% honest and not goof around. You don't deserve a guy whos like that. Try as hard as you can to not give into him, and say that to yourself constantly when he is around. Be serious and firm around him as well or he won't ever take you seriously, this is key

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(Rating: 4) thank you:)
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