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I'm a single 52 year old woman from Houston. I am not included in any family doings. I don't get high or drunk and I'm a pretty nice lady. One of the problems is that my sister has a terrible life and marriage. Her husband is a drug user, herself a border alcoholic. All 3 of her young adult children are a mess. I love them and have tried many times to help them. I love them no matter what. I am a very stable person. I've lived in the same place 20 years, pay my bills on time, you know just a blissfully normal life not counting my diabetic coma and cancer. But I am on the mend. I am never invited to anything, especially when she is involved. She was always jealous of me as a kid. She whined to our mother about all sorts of stuff. She was into bad stuff, I was a nerd. I don't envy anybody. I'm just stable. She has my brothers wrapped around her finger. "Feel sorry for me" is the attitude she gives anybody and actually rolls her eyes behind peoples backs, even her own children, when they talk about their lives or problems. I want to be with the family but because I am easy to deal with, my brothers give into her and know that I will understand, and I do, but I'm tired of being alone on all the holidays, especially when I haven't been too well. If I was well enough I would just go volunteer at a mission at Thanksgiving or Christmas. I'm just tired of being alone especially for the holidays...what should I do, if anything? Thank you. (link)
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ohhhh thats very sad of her!does she not know about your illness?she soudns very selfish im sorry to say.you shouldnt wait to be invited theyr family just invite yourself along and turn up.call them up and just sooo whatr we doing these holidays and say great c u there!just ignore your sister shell never change. this is the time to be around your family so make it happen.also why dont you invite them to you?it might be good to put on the BBQ and invite them along. another thing you could do is go visit your sister and talk to her tell her that your unwell and dont want to have conflict between you two. tell her that you want to be around her and want to do things with her wether she wants to or not. ask her to just try to want to be with you. ofcourse you understand but how long are you going to let them push you around for?its not good for your health either.stand up for yourself once in awhile and tell her to stop.you dont mean any harm all you want is to spend sometime with your family..i hope i helped
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Thank you so much for understanding. I'm going to try your advice. I can't be anymore hurt and it might be just the thing. I will stop letting her push me around...in a nice way. Thank you so much. You made me feel so much more hopeful for this holiday season. XXOO p.s. I hope your holidays are great too!
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