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I could never trust anyone but my closest relatives.Everyone I knew would betray me.People would always make fun of me for reasons I wasn't familiar with.First there were the ones I went to elementary school with.I'm not exaggerating when I say I had almost no friends at all.Only a few out of hundreds of them could actually understand me.For 8 years it seemed like nothing would ever change.I thought they hated me because I was and still am a straight A's student who doesn't like going out at night and getting into trouble.But that's not all.I had a boyfriend who I was truly in love with.He was with me for 7 months,but then cheated on me with my best friend who ended up not caring about me and went for him.I was destroyed for months.He was my everything and I grew up with her.Luckily,my grades remained the same.The thing is I can't bring myself to trust anyone now.Especially boys.For some weird reason I always think they're kidding me.I'm in first year of high school now,and today a guy from my class who's apparently hitting on me came up to me and said I was the hottest girl in class,and instead of feeling good about it,I wanted to slap him! I did say thanks though,but I have major trust issues!I always think people hate me and make fun of me behind my back... I want to fix it but I'm lost and I don't know how.I hate when some people who are good to me,mostly girls tell me they wish they were me,because they have no idea how I feel and what emotional mess I am.What should I do about this? It's just too much for someone my age to handle.Thanks for taking your time to read this.
You said it in your first sentence; when it really comes down to it, family is all you truly have in this world. That's not entirely true, because there are trustworthy people out there, but if you know five of them in your whole life, consider yourself lucky.
But, about the rest of your story. Don't let this one guy ruin it for the next one because you just might push away a really good person because of something he had nothing to do with.
Heartbreak really sucks- I mean REALLY sucks, but you can't be scared to love because of it.
We know when we're getting cheated on, and we know when we're being lied to. I'll be willing to bet that when that jerk was cheating on you, you kind of knew it in the back of your mind-you just chose to ignore it.
The best way to be in a relationship and still keep your sanity is this....Set up boundaries. Have expectations about the way you want to be treated, and if your boyfriend doesn't live up to those expectations, dump him. Don't make excuses for him, or think he will change. Just end it and move on.
Listen to that little voice. It is telling you the truth. So don't push it aside just because you really like the guy.
Don't get angry at people who are nice to you. That's the thing. When we get cheated on it totally destroys our self-esteem. The people who should feel bad, like your friend and that guy, don't even get effected and the person who gets cheated on walks around feeling so down on themselves.
Just remember-the smartest, best, most beautiful people still get cheated on. It wasn't you, it was them. Maybe it's time for you to open up your heart to the rest of the world. It's just so hard, but you're a brave girl if you do!!
(Rating: 5) I understand what you're saying.Thanks for your advice. It sure helped me.