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For weeks I have been iffy about even writing this.
I am young 18 and just got married in August. I am pregnant that is not why we got married but I think we rushed into it. We were planning the wedding already had my wedding dress before i found out I was Pregnant.
Sometimes I find myself regretting getting marred My reasons. I wanted to work days and go to school nights. It would be tough but id be able to better myself for me and my family he through a fit and didnt support me at all. told me either work or go to school but advises me to work because we need the money. Being pregnant I have my mood swings like most if we have an argument its all my fault he will yell at me and blame me then make me feel guilty by saying oh its always all my fault i forgot your so perfect. sometimes he makes im crap. If i feel nauses or sick at night or anything and he wants sex he pouts and acts like he is mad by not saying a workd until he gets it then goes to sleep. he goes hunting, fishing, baseball teams and tournaments etc. anything he wants and i dont argue about it i just let him.
I have asked a million times to look harder for a job. he works 2 days aweek at a sale barn doing something he likes i work full time on my swallon feet 40+ hours a week and come home exhausted and tired. its like he dont care he doesnt want to even try to look he put an app. in at burgerking one app.. in 5 weeks? we live at my dads. which i dont feel is save but dont have a choice. hes lazy
and to top it off he always wants to spend money. i used to get food stamps which just stopped but hed want a gallon of tea every 2 days. go out and buy food he wants all the time because hes to lazy to cook one thing or wait for it to get done. as soon as he gets paid he goes and spends most of the money on garbage food and gets mad when i tell him i dont want it id rather eat food i cook at home.
I love my husband to death trust me and want to work things out but i dont know what to do i talk to him about it and itslike it is in one ear and out the other.

For everyone saying divorce him, I'm thinking those people have never been in this kind of situation. When your pregnant and you are married you don't just get into a divorce. And if your pregnant and have someone to help you through it, it's not just easier to raise them yourself.
So don't listen to the people saying leave them, because I'm 15 and pregnant and had an amazing boyfriend for a year, and then decided to breakup with him and it was the biggest regret of my life I miss him so much. We barely talk now, and he's already realized it's easier being single. But I miss him.
Sorry if this didn't help much but it made me mad that everyone was saying leave him, I understand that you love him and he just has flaws like my boyfriend did. And he's a boy so that doesn't help, haha. Good luck :) At least your not as young as me, I'm sort of pissed about what title the advicenators gave you

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(Rating: 5) thanks i dont want to leave him unless its like never going to get better and he promised to look harder for a better job and stuff
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