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Hey, I'm LadyJade. I created this column mainly because I genuinely love to help people with stuff that they are going through or share with them stuff that I may have gone through or may even be going through. I love people who are "real" and down-to-earth. 'Life's a stage on which we are the actors.' The actors need direction and I want to help with that.
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17/f my bf is 18
My bf and I seem to clash a lot. We live together, but he tends to get annoyed easily, he is impatient sometimes, and he gets mad for no reason sometimes. I, on the other hand, am very sensitive, have a lot of patience and have a high tolerance, but my emotions get the best of me and I break down. So when my bf and I fight, it's like none of us apologize, things are said, and we just ignore each other or act like we are separated. And I know it's partly my fault for acting the same way by ignoring him, but I end up hurt and lock myself in the bathroom and let my emotions out.. (Im a big crier). I really don't know what to do... We have been together for 2 years and sincerely love each other but during these moments, I easily get hurt and he sucks at comforting me... I hate when he gets pissy or anything along the lines of it, because either I start losing patience little by little, or I get hurt...
Am I just too high maintenance or is it him?
Thanks in advance.
From experience, usually in a relationship, when one or both partners tend to get easily annoyed and impatient often for no apparent reason it's because of an unaddressed issue. There's something in your relationship that is bothering your partner that he feels is being ignored.
I remember when I used to get like that and it was because I was feeling neglected by my boyfriend. I was asking for more time and not seeing him making any effort to spend more time with me so I began feeling shortchanged. I began to feel like I deserved better and that's where the negative emotions originated. They disappeared once we started spending more quality time together.
So you need to sit with him and ask the relevant questions that will no doubt lead to the real cause of his behavior.
Email me the results.
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Lady Jade
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much, your advice helps :D