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1) A love relationship is a TWO way thing, you BOTH have to be on the SAME page.. Communication is vital. FACT.
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Hi,
I am a 17f. Theres this guy I met and have known for several months. He is 18 and he is the absolute sweetest guy ever, which is why I like him. We have hung out a few nights and cuddled a little. The problem is, I know he has another girl that he feels strongly for. He told me about her and hes told me he loves me, but its not the same love that he has for this other girl. Then he tells me later that he just loves me. He also said he wants to kiss me to see if theres 'a spark', I didnt think that would be right so I didnt let him. I dont want to get closer to him, expecially knowing he has another girl. Everyone thinks we are dating and I keep telling them NO WE ARE NOT. I think I really like him, Im just unsure. I think hes unsure as well. He makes me feel like I have never felt before, but I can't help but think that he will end up ditching me or I might find someone better.. you know? I told him we should just be friends..deep inside I want it to be more;I am sure he does too but..yeah. I have never dated before, cuz all the other guys I know are losers and just want sex. I want it to be right. I am not the kind of girl that dates just anybody for the hell of it. Please tell me what you think, Just be friends or.. ?

You are right to feel unsure. Who knows if he'll stay with you or 'ditch' you, like how you put it. You got to lay it down for this guy, he make you feel like the most special person or like you've never felt before, I understand that. But that isn't exactly going to shield you from any heartbreak later on, will it?! If he wants to be with you, he has to leave the other girl.. He can't be selfish, and have two special girls, it is wrong! And he should know better. The whole idea of kissing to see if there is a 'spark', is absolute child-play! Why should he trust a 'spark' to tell him whether he likes or loves you, he should know for sure, and deep down in his heart that he does. If he does love you, it has to be serious and real. Love isn't just a game, it is serious and he has to know that!
You both have to be on the same page. And for a healthy relationship, everything has to be clear, serious and real. It isn't a game when it deals with other people. Give him an ultimatum! Whichever he picks, be grateful. If he doesn't pick you, know that it was for your own good, you wouldn't want to be left after a couple of months, only to find out that he still likes his ex. You are smart to keep the distance.
Don't be afraid of finding someone better than him, that will only mean something better, right!?

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(Rating: 5) You are completely right, and I know that. Which is why I have decided that he shouldnt be spending any more time with me. And he hasnt. I told him there is someone worth my time out there and that he shouldnt keep hanging onto me, its not right. Thanks for saying everything you did :)
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