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Well I have two questions to this topic. First I will explain the situation.
My boyfriend and I broke up (Ex now) about a month and a half ago. I left him after 2 years because he always abused me, never made time for me, and wouldn't let me do anything. He used me sexually and financially. I finally left, and couple weeks later I found someone else. I got over it so quickly because I never really loved my ex for a couple months prior to the breakup. I finally did because I couldn't handle it anymore. Well my new boyfriend and I are in love, happy, and such.
Problem is, the ex is still trying to contact me. He calls and texts me from different numbers; he IMs me from screenames I never even gave him; hhe tried messaging me on myspace but I blocked him.
He wants me back obviously, but I am not taking him back. I keep telling him to leave me alone but he won't. He's really becoming so bothersome that I feel stuck.
He has threatened me in the past, says he has stalkers on me, and knows where I live. My parents suggested a restraining order and a number (cell) change. Now they think a restraining order is a waste, when I would feel safer doing it. Now they just think a number change is better. I will consider the number change.
So my questions are, what all do restraining orders do? And is it worth doing it in my situation?
Thanks in advance.
He sounds kinda creepy, especially the whole, "I have stalkers on you" thing. Seriously, I'd be freaked out. Hahah.
"A restraining order tells the person who may be hurting you to stop hitting, threatening, or harming you in any way. It can also order the person (see note below) to stay away from you, to move out of your home, or to stop coming to your home. It can also give you temporary custody of your children, though it cannot be used only for this purpose. The person can be arrested if he/she threatens or physically hurts you, or contacts you or comes near you when the restraining order says he/she is not allowed to do so."
http://www.larcc.org/pamphlets/children_family/get_restraining_order.htm
First try the number change. If he somehow gets it or if he starts threatening you, then I'd go for the restraining order.
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