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Q: okay so i like my best friend. he currently broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years. i've always heard he liked this girl who i am not fond of, her name is sammy. i just think he could do SO much better.

so i always ask if anything is going on between him and he says no, but you know when you can just tell? i feel like thats how it is...

last night i was with him and was like can i see your phone and he was like noooo!!(: and i was like why not. and he was like why so you can see if i was texting sammy? and he was like we're just best friends. and i was like OHHHH so now she's your best friend? guess were not best friends anymore. and he was like no linds, we are. me and her are just FRIENDS.

and he was like if i liked her we would be dating by now. and then i kept asking to see him phone and i think i went a little over the top. and he was like what are you jealous or something? and he was like i think you are! i really was jealous ahaha, but i was like no! i just want to make sure you're not talking to any dumb whores lol.

i think i went a little over the top though, borderline annoying. i feel really bad although he texted me before he went to bed and was like goodnight and everything but i still feel bad!

i still feel like he likes her, even though hes told me several times he doesnt. i feel like i dont believe him, when i should!

how can i get over this?
this is hard, i know because my best friend is also a boy.

what you have to do is find faith in your friendship, and believe in the strength of your closeness.

if he truly is your best friend, then you need to support him no matter what. Acting this way could end your friendship with him, and I can tell you dont want that.

You have to pull him aside, and be honest. say this

"i really care about you, and love you. and because of that, i am very protective of you. please dont misunderstand that to be jealousy. I apologize for my immature behavior, and I only want the best for you. will you forgive me?"

dont drag on. keep it simple and make sure he understands that you really care about him and only want whats best. And that you will try harder to be more sensative to his needs.

hope this helps! =]

steph 21

thank you so much!:)

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steph2k10
Hi! I'm Stephanie, I'm a 21 yr living in Houston, Texas. I've been living on my own since I was 17 and wouldnt have it any other way. Ive been through many bad things in my life. Instead of letting things hurt me and make me bitter and depressed, I have let them make me stronger. I can give great advice on almost any subject. Im getting married in December to a wonderful man named Chris, and will soon my a military wife! inbox me or email me anytime, id love to hear from you!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

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