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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
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Alright. So I'm a 16/F and this is what happened. My boyfriend and I were at a party the other night and we ran into trouble. There was this one other guy there (we'll call him J) and so J, me, and this other girl were just chilling on the couch while my boyfriend was off playing pool or something. So J takes my hand and starts leading me away from the couch and I'm just kind of like okayyy... because I mean, I didn't really know this kid too well but I was just like whatever, he probably just wants to get some food or something. Well he starts taking me back towards this room and I stop outside the door and I'm like "What are you doing?" and J says, "Come in here with me." I started babling like an idiot "What? No, my boyfriend- I- huh?- why?" and he leaned in real close, put his hand on like the small of my back (because I was trying to back away) and whispered "It'll be fun just come on." Weeeell, as you can guess, this looks a little shady. I mean, this guy is still holding my hand, he's whispering in my ear, got his hand on my back, and we're standing in the doorway of a dark room. Which is GREAT timing for my boyfriend to look over and see us. So my bf storms over and he's like "What the he** are you doing?" And I had already pulled away from J but J shoves me behind him and is all like "What's your problem, dude? I'm a little busy right now." Ha, yeah, let's just say that REALLLY pissed my bf off. He gets all up J's face and says "Yeah, with MY girlfriend. Now get the f*$@ away." Well, I myself would walk away right about now, but J's got the doorway blocked so I'm kind of just standing there like a worthless bag of poo, trying to get out when, oh goody, J makes it worse and said something like "Well your girlfriend is obviously a slu* if she was about to come in her with me" and before I could say "I wasn't going in there with you!!", my bf punched J in the face. They start getting into it right there, and a few other guys pull em off of eachother. They both got a little beat up, and the girl throwing the party got all pissed and was like "Get out of here!" So yeah. We got kicked out of the party... I felt HORRIBLE. I mean, like, I just felt so bad. I know I wasn't the one getting into the fight, but I just felt really guilty. Not for getting kicked out of the party but because my bf had like a blackeye and gosh, I just feel horrible, I feel like its all my fault. I mean, like jeez. I apologized like a million times to him, and his parents because they were all "What happened!?!" and ugh. I just feel so bad. My bf says its no big deal and he doesn't get why I feel so guilty but he got hurt and I feel like its my fault. What can I do to make it up to him? Am I being stupid for feeling like this?
Oh, c'mon. Ignore the person below me. What the hell were you supposed to do? Just kick the guy and run away? You already told him no. You didn't even know what was going on. You couldn't even do anything. And you can't exactly just run and get away when your boyfriend shows up because like you said, J had the door blocked. Guys are stronger anyway and if he didn't want you to get past him, he'd make sure you didn't.
Your boyfriend had a right to get mad. Not at you, just at the guy. He coulda handled it better instead of punching him in the face though. Not the best idea. But hey, no one thinks things through when they're pissed off like that. It wasn't a big deal that he took your hand. If someone did that to me that I didn't even really know, I'd think the same thing you did.
Don't feel bad. It's not your fault your they started fighting. You couldn't do anything to stop it. It wasn't your fault. Relaaax. :)
He said it was no big deal and he understands you didn't know what was going on and you couldn't get away. But if you still wanna make it up to him, you could do somethin kinda big I guess, like taking him to a concert or a baseball game or something.
Hope I helped:D
(Rating: 5) Haha. Thank you.