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okayy so i hung out with my ex and one of my best friends and then we met up with 2 other friends, so it was the 5 of us. it was chill, we talked like friends would talk, nothing serious. he brought up things from the past though like i had my favorite necklace on my mirror in the car and he pointed that out and one of my favorite songs was on the radio so he stopped and let it play saying "oh you love this song" when he doesn't like it. then at the end of the night i didn't feel like getting up so i said to like everyone "can someone give me a piggy back ride to the car" and he gave me one. he's been really chill and i want him back, but i don't want to come on too strong. so my questions are, 1. when should i ask him if he wants to go on vacation with me? (he probably does cause he wants me to teach him how to surf lol) and 2. should i just keep hanging out as his friend or should i hint i still love him? if so, how? thank you soo much..i should seriously be paying you haha.

I don't know if you realize it, but it sounds like right now he is feeling the same way you are, or at the very least, he's open to the possibilities. He is trying to let you know he cares and remembers the songs you like and all that stuff. The thing is this-we girls can't figure out what the heck it is that guys want, but what they really want is to make us laugh, to see that smile he put on your face when he remembered your song, and to "rescue" you by giving you the piggy back. I wouldn't hint you still LOVE him, that's way too much information to throw on him, but I would hint that you like him. You might not even have to hint, I'm sure it's written all over your face. Plus, those "I like you" conversations always get complicated, and that's the last thing you want. So, it's not really so much about saying it, as it is about showing it. The best way to let a guy know you like him without putting him or you on the spot (and you'll make him feel like the MAN in the bargain) is to throw it out there to another person (or group of people)when you are all together. Like when you are all hanging out you could say something like, "no other guy compares to him," or 'believe me, if I had it all to do over again, he would be my man right now." This way, he isn't forced to try to say the "right" thing, or even say anything, and you've laid it all out on the table for everyone to know, no games, no bullshit. Make sure you don't say it in a depressed way, keep a smile on your face, but make it clear you wish things were different. I bet you the smile on his face will say it all.
Like I said, it makes a guy feel like a king when he can make his girl happy. So honestly, the best thing you can do is let him make you happy. Romance eachother all over again. You know there were certain things you did that he just thought was so cute, so do them. And don't be afraid to let him know ou're doing them for him.
Number one thing-don't pressure him!! Don't hint you like him with any expectations. Your aim shouldn't be to get him back as your boyfriend right now; your aim should be to make sure he isn't thinking about dating any other girls because you're the one on his mind.
As far as the vacation thing, that's a tough one, and I've rewritten this paragraph about five times. I am just going to send you a lot of good wishes that the right time to ask him presents itself. It kind of depends on what you want; if you are OK with going as friends, ask him any time, but if you want to go as a couple, that's a little different. Hopefully, if you talk about the vacation, planning it in front of him with your friends, or whatever, you can get him to almost invite himself. Good luck!

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