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im Kristin. 20 years old. Criminal justice major/psychology minor at Georgia Southern University - let the good times roll =]. i'm really laid back, love talking to people, and having a good time. i get on here when i'm bored so if you have a question, inbox me!

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So I dated this guy for two years. I always felt like something wasn't right. I finally broke up with him. And he isn't handling it well to say the least. I want to be his friend. And he says we can be friends, but he is still in love with me. I really care about him so i can't just cut him out of my life. we argue a lot. He is under a lot of stress at home and I feel like he needs me. His friends are all distant now and don't act in a way either of us approve of. So I'm really the only thing he has. I feel like an idiot but what do i do? He still acts like my boyfriend. He's extremely jealous even though I am not dating right now. I just have A LOT of guy friends. And I do like one of them. He gets mad when I don't answer my phone or don't reply to his texts and its driving me crazy. I know he needs time but how much time?! How long will it take for him to get over me and what can I do to make sure I don't hinder the process of falling out of love. I need him to turn into my friend. Is this even possible?

i am going through the SAME EXACT thing so i totally feel you! the previous answer was right, you have to let him say his goodbyes and remove yourself from his life or he'll never grasp the concept that yall are over and move on. i went to a guy friend of mine for my own advice and he said honestly that in a guy's eyes, if you stick around talking to him, trying to be his friend, anything, that he'll have all the false hope in the world that he can get you back, whether you show interest or not, he'll be flat out determined to try to win you back. i know what you mean by being all he has, but you can't let that burden you and i'm coming to terms with that myself. honestly, his life WILL go on without you. yes it'll suck, but it will go on. yes it'll hurt and you may feel like you're betraying and abandoning him, but you have to do what's best for you. being friends right now is NOT possible. maybe in time, but not now. give him closure, and then step out of his life. the sooner you do, the easier it'll be. good luck! inbox me if you need more help =]

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(Rating: 5) i did give him an ultimatum and asked him if we REALLY could be friends. Its not like I hang out with him all the time though. He texts me. He calls me. I hardly ever text him. thank you SO much for the feedback. but i cannot leave him with no explanation. He is my best friend. I'm leaving it up to him. We also have common friends so its awkward. but anyway thank you! and good luck with your situation! nice to know i'm not alone in this
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