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heyy its me again =/ haha the girl with the ex bf problems. i hope you remember me.

so yeah one of my friends that's friends with him and me is having a little get-together thing at her house in a few days and she invited him. this is my first like long-term relationship ex-boyfriend so i don't really know how to play it. i want him to know that i still love him and want him back without acting clingy and stuff it's gonna be all our friends hanging out so i just want to have a good time and hope something happens between us. so my questions are what should i do to let him know i still love him and want to be with him without being all clingy and stuff and should i hug him when i get there? i know i'm gonna be the same girl i was last summer when he fell in love with me but any special tips? as you can probably tell by now i really love this guy and would do anything to get him back. thank you so much.

I definately think you should hug him when you get there, but you really want to keep it fun. Don't get into a serious conversation with him, don't put any pressure on, don't have any of your friends pumping him for information.
Honestly and truly, the best thing you can do to catch his attention is have fun. Don't hang around where he is all night, but don't avoid him, either.
Keep this in mind-he knows you are going to be there, so he is probably feeling just as nervous as you. Girls tend to think that guys don't have any emotions, but that's not true, they just have to hide it better because their friends will give them crap if they don't.
I don't know if there is going to be drinking there, but if there is, I would be really careful not to get in over my head and make myself look like a drunken idiot. A lot of times, we think we'll just have a drink to calm our nerves and the next thing you know we're passed out on the couch. I should go into the whole "you shouldn't drink" thing, but reality is reality, so if you do drink, keep it to like two. If you don't drink, disregard that last paragraph.
I don't know if you guys had any "couple things". By this I mean, cute, playful things you or he used to do when you were together. For example, you could have an "accidental" slip and call him "baby." Or, if he knows you always loved his abs, touch them and tell him you should still have the right to check them out whenever you want. You get the gist. Don't be afraid to flirt because you will make him feel good.
Are there any really fun things all of your friends did together when the two of you were dating? If you guys are all sitting around talking, take a walk down memory lane, bringing up events that happened when the two of you were dating (you can even ask your friend to bring up a couple of funny things you and him did). You want his mind to start thinking about that kind of stuff, reminiscing about you. The next day, he'll be sitting around thinking about all of the fun you guys had together, and he won't even know you set him up for it.
One big thing you have on your side is that you share the same friends. This just makes it so much easier.
The most important thing-don't put so much emphasis on this one night, like it is now or never. Like I said, you share the same friends, so there will be plenty of time. Your main goal for this night should be having fun and going home with a smile on your face. You just want to lay the groundwork.

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