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okay so we broke up like a little over a month ago and i've been talking to his sister and she says that he has no social life since we broke up, and he's been being mean to his friends and stuff and he was doing better with me (he had a social life with my friends-guys&girls too but now they kinda don't like him cuz he dumped me). the last month while we were dating he would lie to me and tell me "his mom wouldn't let him go out" or "he had homework" and he never used to do this for like the first 6 months we were together. she says hes lazy but he still likes me. i guess what i'm saying is that i miss who he used to be...we were planning on hanging out when school is over, so my question is, do you think i can get him back the way he used to be during the first 6 months? how? things were perfect last summer and i want them to be this summer too. and please don't tell me to just move on, if worst comes to worst i know that i can. i just want to give this a shot because i do miss who he was. thanks so much. 17/f hes 17.

Well, I doubt it will be like it was before, but it sounds like something a little more serious than just relationship woes are on his mind. When a person becomes depressed, their habits suddenly change. What looks like lazy is really just sadness and lack of motivation, and it sounds like he was experiencing these things before you guys broke up.
If you guys do hang out during this summer you dont have to stick a label on your relationship. Just get together as friends at first and see how things go. During school he could be facing a lot of pressure about his future, or a bunch of other things and the summer might help him to relax a little.
Don't corner him and tell him he's depressed, but mention you think he might be getting overwhelmed with all of the changes/choices/stress, and you are there to talk.
I'm not saying he is in need of medical attention, or anything, but it is common for guys his age to go through a phase like this. After all, everything in his life is changing, or about to change, he's starting to stress over the future. There could be so many things weighing on his mind. Be a good friend and help him sort it out, but whatever you do, don't let it bring you down. If you invite him somewhere and he doesn't want to go, you still go yourself.
It is possible for the two of you to share a really great summer, but it could be that he will never be like how he was before.

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