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My boyfriend and i broke up.
we broke up on sunday and it was really weird how he explained it. We broke up because his mom thought we were geting to close. He said that we could still be friends, hang out., adn go on dates. He said that we could still do everything we were doing whenever we were dating but we aren't going to be dating. He still tells me he loves me and calls me babe. BUT! he hasn't called me in 2 days nothing at all. idk what to do. he broke my heart but i still want to be his friend but not with benifits im not a slut..

Oh, the old "mother" routine. The truth is, he's got an interest in someone or something else, and he wants to be able to say he wasn't cheating if the oppertunity to be with her comes up. He's still keeping things going with you because he's not sure what he wants.
Well, you are sure of what you want. You want your man to be all yours.
Now, here's the other thing...
He isn't really a bad guy. He could have gone cheating behind your back or he could have not even bothered to give you any explanation. He just can't put how he's really feeling into words without hurting you so he's blaming it on his mother.
Whatever you do, DO NOT be the friend with benifits becuase you really want a relationship with this guy and he is only going to get away with what you let him. You can't say, "Yes, I'll have sex with you unconditionally" because then it's not like one day he's going to suddenly realize that he wants to have sex with only you. Why should he? He knows he can have you any way he wants.
You and he are not married, so he is totally within his rights to explore. Be thankful he is respecting you enough to let you know what's up. He obviously really does care about you and want to be your friend, and being your friend should be benifit enough.

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