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This is probably pretty easy to solve but I just want reassurance...
Sorry that it's long!

So, I confessed to this guy. I'd liked him for a while, but I absolutely never showed it so we were just casual friends and all that, texted each other. He's got a girlfriend already so it was stupid of me to even say it but I had to. It was bugging me so much whenver I was with him that I couldn't stand it. I told him I liked him.

In the end I kinda freaked out and rushed off telling him to forget the whole thing and was a total spaz. He said it was really really unexpected, almost to the point of freakin a person out, because I'd liked him for so long and said nothing.

He said I was still his friend, but... I'm wondering... maybe....if he said that just to let me off easy. We weren't really close friends, so it's not like losing me will have a huge impact on him.

He's not texted me for a couple days now, after the confession, though he always did before. even if it meant texting at like 1 am.

My friend had said some things to him about how his comments kind of hurt me a little bit, so I wonder if maybe HE'S trying to give ME space too, or what. (I deleted him from my phone temporarily so I wouldn't be tempted to talk to him before he was ready. I'm really, really trying to think of his feelings in this more than my own.) She did some digging around for me without my asking like, "Why'd you find it so creepy? do you think Mady is nasty or something?" (they're pretty good friends, so it's reasonable that she'd be able to dig like that.)

and he said, "No". Well, that's a LITTLE encouraging. He had no clue I was there, so why lie? I went over to her place yesterday for a few hours and while there she texted him and she said whenever the conversation turned to me, he got real quiet.

That, on top of it being "kinda weird" doesn't really calm my fears about our friendship recovering.

What should I do? Just......... wait it out? and, if he doesn't get back in touch with me all summer, maybe give him a smile and a wave at school this coming fall, and if everything seems ok strike up a convo like nothing happened?

what can I do to not think about this so often, too?

I would call him (talk, not text) and say, "It wasn't fair of me to put you in such a bad position. I know you have a girlfriend, and it's not fair for me to lay something like that on you. I know I wouldn't want someone talking like that to my boyfriend. I am attracted to you, but not enough to steal you from someone else." You will throw him way off course. He will be like, "wow, this chick has class." It will make him really respect you because he will know you're the kind of girl who expects her man to be HER man, despite your sudden lapse in judgement. He will get to thinking about you. When you talk to him, stick by your word. Don't mention a thing about liking him, or say negative things about his girlfriend. Just be his friend for now.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks. I did establish that I wasn't gonna steal him or anything, but if I get back in touch with him then I'll definitely consider throwing in the whole how it wasn't fair part... because, really, it WASN'T.. he was the one who wanted to know who I liked, but I coulda just said, "No."
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