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I have a gut instinct I am pregnant. I am always regular, but now I never had my period.. two weeks late and I am waking up getting sick, and I cramp so bad I could cry. I've been so moody, and I have a big headache. A few random times I had sore breasts but not right now at the moment. Well, took online tests and said it's a 60%.. and won't know for sure til I test, I know. I am testing in the morning.
So to the point, what can I do if I am pregnant? I have no insurance; although if I am positive I may sign up for medicaid and welfare.. I just got laid off from my job, and no one is hiring. Same as my fiance. I reside with parents for financial reasons, and I know if they find out I am pregnant, they'll kick me out.
Money is entirely an issue. I can't see a Doctor, I can't even get money; although my fiance is trying.
What could I possibly do financially? I want a good (possibly best) life for my potential child. A few jobs I might have, just have to wait on a call monday. Any tips or past experiences with this may be helpful. I am just so scared. And I am 19; not 13. My fiance and I are getting married but plans changed obviously because of money, so it was delayed.
Anything would help here. Thanks. (link)
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I know this is a scary time, let's try to work out a primary action plan for you in the event that you are in fact pregnant.
1. You said you and your fiance were recently laid off. Do you qualify for unemployment? Check this out. If so, sign up for that right away. At least that will give you some income in the short term.
2. You not only need money, you need healthcare if you plan on starting a family (and it sounds like you do from your post. If you're not sure, making that decision should be a top priority).
There are some companies that are good with health insurance. Starbucks gives ALL their employees HI. I know they're having hard times now though- but see if any are hiring near you.
3. Go to planned parenthood. They can help give you some guidance on resources available to you.
If you don't like that organization I'm sure there are other social services available, you just need to do a lot of calling and hunting.
4. You need a support network. Whatever choices you end up making, it's not going to be easy. So you need to stay strong, positive and you need some supportive people around you.
I'm concerned that you think your parents won't be supportive. I hope you have some friends or other people you can count on for support. If not, look into free counseling services, support groups, etc.
Should you end up needing this advice, I hope it helps to give you a few places to start with.
RT
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Thank you =]. Your advice was very detailed and thorough. I appreciate your time.
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