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hey i liked the advice you've given me before :) soo..

i'm bringing my ex with me on vacation in july. we broke up in april, but we both decided that we were still gonna stay good friends and see where things go from there. i'm still in love with him. he broke it with me because he said his feelings changed, but he said he still wanted me in his life, and i know he means it too. we're going to myrtle beach together and do you think theres a chance of him falling back in love if we're like on the beach at night flirting and hanging out? what do you think of this situation? and what things can i do to make it as romantic as possible. i would do absolutely anything to get back with this guy.

17/f, 17/m
thanks so much for your time.

oh and we were together for about 9 months, if that helps. and we met in the summer and starting dating in the summer.

If he is involved with someone else: Don't bother trying to get him into a romantic relationship. Go to Myrtle Beach, catch up, flirt a little, leave it on the table for the future. If he is in a relationship you don't need to bother thinking he wants to be serious, and if he does, it will only be screwed up, because you will be the rebound chick, and who knows if he still loves this girl, and you don't need to put yourself on the line to find out. If you really want this guy for the long haul, you have to be patient (it might hurt, a little, and he might be hard to resist sexually) If you think you can have sex with him without emotional attachments you're probably wrong, and everything will only do damage to your future together. If you are planning on getting him back it is going to take more time and a quick spurt in Myrtle Beach is going to come at a high price. Concentrate on being his best friend. Being the girl he can go to with anything.
If he is not with someone else: Have a great time. Let him know you think he's a good man and you want him to be yours. Try not to analyze everything, and think about 12 times before you say anything too emotional. Don't play games. Concentrate on being his best friend and partner. Also, he loved you at one point, but his love changed probably because of a glitch in the system. (his-commitment issues, wanting sex with someone else, or yours-playing games, emotional baggage) Forgive and forget, and be willing to change and get past the glitch and move on to the next "relationship" step.
If you invited him on vacation with you as a friend, don't blindside him into all of this and then get resentful if he doesn't fall for you. If you truly love him you will be happy being his friend. Who knows where it can go in the future. In the mean time-don't wait for him, either. Concentrate on making you the best person you can be.

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