Whatever your problem is, chances are I have dealt with it- either directly of indirectly- at some point in my life. I've worked as a Social Worker (with issues like mental illness, addiction, disabilities, eating disorders, etc.)
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In addition to that, I've lived in 4 different countries, many different cities, and worked jobs in all different fields from Software Sales to Fashion Designer.
This diverse life experience has given me knowledge on a wide variety of topics- which I hope I can put to good use here. :-)
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PS- I do not judge people or speak to them in a condescending way. However, I will be honest and tell you what you NEED to hear, not what you WANT to hear.
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Ok so my friend has just been dumped by her boyfriend after 20 months of bing together (im a guy 17 shes 17) shes my best friend but i jsut dont know how to give her advice :( i really want to make her think that life goes on she will eventually get over himn even though its going to be hard as hell, i was talking to her today she was in tears of course and much like every guy with a crying girl we have no fucking clue what to do or say, i really want to help her even if its the tiniest bit but i dont know how :( how do i give her advice? what should i keep in mind? how i do stay levl headed and not make my self so awkwardly uncomfortable when girls are like this. thanks for you time and effort and interest in my question (link)
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You DO know what to say you just don't know it.
Fact is, you already said it.
The best thing to do is be speak from your heart. Tell her what you just said here- feel bad, would like to help but don't know how, not sure if you could say anything that will make her feel better because the truth is that it will hurt for a while but she'll eventually feel better...
You said it all already! Just tell her that. The truth works wonders. She'll be happy enough just to see that you care- and anyway, sometimes just LISTENING helps.
You don't always have to have the answer.
RT
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I know i dont allways have the answer but i love her so much as a friend and it hurts to see such a pretty awesome person get kicked down a notch by a selfish goon like him :( thanks for taking the time to answer
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