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I have been in a relationship with my partner for 2 years.
I love him very much, but I feel hes not paying me enough attention, which I feel has lead me into the big mistake I made 2 days ago.
I have been flirting with his best mate for quite some time, even though I don't really know him, now regardless of what anybody thinks of me, its NOT like me atall, I have never cheated on a partner before and have never even had the urge too, but for the last year, me and my boyfriends relationship has been very rocky, & I feel we have grown very distant, and its almost like I hate him being around, but miss him when hes not.
He has been neglecting me in many ways, however if I tease him or get naked, suddenly he perks up & is all ears & eyes for me...
Basically things went a little too far with his best friend two days ago.
I had a miscarriage just over a week ago, and my partner didnt want a baby, but due to the fact it happened, eventually he agreed to stick by me, but all the stress, turned a threatened miscarriage into a full on miscarriage, and since then I have been very very down.
I turned to his best mate because my partner didn't care that the baby was gone, he was almost happy! and things went from a cuddle to me playing with him.
I regret it but then again, I still feel the need to do it again! Inside I kind of know that if my partner was giving me the love and attention I deserve as his girlfriend, then I would not have any need to go elsewhere. This is a dangerous game and I am very nervous as his mate still comes over ALL the time. I don't know what to do now, I do not want to lose my partner, but I don't wanna lose his best mate as my mate...has anyone else been in this situation? I really need to know where to go next with this one. Thanks (link)
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First of all, I'm very sorry to hear about your miscarriage. That's a tragic thing to go through. And whether either of you wanted the child or not is irrelevant, it's still not a pleasant situation and he should have been there for you.
The fact that your partner wasn't there for you at a time like that is terrible. He does not seem to be meeting your emotional needs at all.
And to be perfectly frank, you don't seem happy with him. It sounds more like you are just so used to him being around- and I think you want someone around- but maybe not him.
What you did with the friend was probably not the best decision and I understand your guilt / regret. But don't beat yourself up about it. I think you just really needed some emotional support and you weren't getting it.
But what's done is done. You need to try to move forward and get to a place where you can really be fulfilled- and I don't mean just sexually.
That might mean finding someone who can be a true friend as well as a sexual partner.
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Quote : It sounds more like you are just so used to him being around- and I think you want someone around- but maybe not him.
So many people have said that, and I do agree, just don't know where to go next with it!
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