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I have been with this guy for a few months and we've friends for a few years. Our relationship is different from most people our age,we don't play games and we both know that we'll always be together. I really love him but a lot of things have been happening lately that I'm worried about. Tell me what you think;
He gets mad really easily and says that he's not good enough for me and he's an idiot and all that.
When he gets upset he really hurts me, he'll just leave without saying goodbye and he won't come over.
He always thinks that I don't care about him as much as he cares about me and that he shows me how much he loves me but I act like I don't love him.
HELP! Has anyone ever been with a guy that does these things?


Hey there,
Sounds like he is really thinking about the relationship. When he gets mad easily and says hes an idiot, he is probably thinking that you show how much you love him all the time and that he doesnt give you as much love as he thinks he should. It sounds as if He would like to be the leader and just have you trust and follow him, with you in his arms. When he leaves without saying goodbye, he just needs time to think 'what just happened' over by himself.
What i think you need to do, is find a way to SHOW him EVERYDAY that you love him no matter what. Its the little things that really count. Leave him a sticky note on the bathroom mirror saying "I love your ______" every morning; changing the words in the blank (and be SERIOUS about what you choose). Bake him some heart cookies, cuddle with him while watching his favorite movie, know what his favorites are, go to a spa or get a massage together, just rent a movie for the two of you, make him a meal, go for a walk in the park together, give him his space, invite some of his friends for a party, Always find time to spend with him! AND, look him in the eyes and tell him you love him no matter what everyday! Love is hard work, but with time... love comes easily.
Good Luck!

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(Rating: 5) Good ideas, thanks a bunch!
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