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i'm not really asking too much for advice, but more of an opinion and what you think. so heres my story (17f&17m):

i dated this guy for 8 months and we broke up the last week of april...he said he doesn't have the same feelings for me. however, we went to prom together and i was laying on this guy cause i wasn't feeling good and he was off doing his own thing...and he got upset at me for that...we both decided that itd be best for us not to talk until summer starts (which is in like a month from now) then he wants to start hanging out again as friends and he said "if its meant to be, it'll be". we started going out during the summer of last year and i was thinking of doing something cute when we hang out to realize why he fell for me last summer. i really love this kid and he treats me right. so what do you think i should do with this whole situation..is there anything that can boost our chances of getting back together?

oh and should i text him first when school ends? and how long should i wait? or should i let him text me?

It is difficult for me to give you advice because I'm not sure why this guy wants to slow things down. I get the feeling that he may be protecting his feelings because he has trouble trusting you.
Here's the thing, if you really like this guy and he treats you right, you might want to make a commitment in your mind to wait for him. He might want to wait until the summer so he can see what you do in the meantime. If I were you, I would make sure I didn't flirt with any other boys. Don't give this guy any questions in his mind about who you want to be with.
Deep down inside you know why his feelings have changed. If you think it is because you had so much fun last summer and then everything changed, you can't recreate the person you used to be, but you can try to emphasize the positives. Have fun, be that sweet girl he fell for, but set limits, too. If he wants to see other people while you sit around bored and lonely, don't go for it.
Just one more thing. Search your soul and figure out why you want him back. If you find that it is only because he broke up with you and your ego can't handle the rejection, get over it; you will only end up wanting to break it off once you get him back.
Oh yeah, one more thing-try backing off for a little while. It is pretty easy for him to feel confident if he knows you are pining away for him, waiting until you can talk to him in the summer. If he doesn't have a valid reason for breaking it off with you, and you get the feeling he is enjoying the attention he is getting from you with no real plans of getting back, it might actually get him to notice you once you back off. Guys are just like us girls in that way-they always want what they can't have and they don't want to lose what they've got.

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