Hey, i was the girl that asked this question - http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=561649
Well, now ryan is complaining that i have been hooking up with half of the guys in my school, which isnt true at all. i have only hooked up with about 8 guys since he has broken up with me. and most of them out of depression.. he starts SCREAMING at me, that im a slut.
i didnt state this in my last question but i am 16 and i am a sophmore, and he is 18 and is a senior.
Ryan-
lol ur rediculous....go ahead hook up with every1 and be slut
he imed that to me this morning on ichat. i got a text from him at 1 am last night
"Ryan- soo.. you hook up with jake 45 minutes after i broke up with you. coool."
like, mature much?
heres another one-- ryan: "you say you wanna get back together. you say your waiting. but all i see is you hooking up with one guy after the other. i dont like being lied to. ontop of that, you get mad and upset whenever you hear im getting with someone else.. when your getting with like half the school."
me: "im not getting with half the school. i cant talk now im out with people"
ryan: "laura, dont even try to deny anything. just stop lying its pathetic. have fun mackin it with whoever you are with."
me: "erite,, maybe i will"
ryan: "goodbye"
me: "oh, im pretty sure i never said i was waiting, i said the opposite. and then im pretty sure you were never going to ask for me backkk sooo... whatever"
ryan: "maybe i was... ever think of that?"
me: "HAHAHA nope"
he texts me later that night
ryan: "im gunna ask you something right now, and if you dont answer it truthfully ill know. dont bother trying to cover your ass so im not mad.. because if you lie i promise you its over for good and ill never talk to you ever again. just tell me the truth and maybe ill still talk to you. how many people have you hooked up with since we broke up?"
me: i told you.. im over my texting. call me if you care that much.
ryan: for 50 cents i think this is worth it.
me: alright.. 5 or 6... maybe 8 guys..
ryan: why do you find it necessiary to lie to me?
me: im not....
ryan: cuz i remember asking you 10 mins ago and you said HAAHA no. this right here laura.. is why we cant get back together anytime soon. all i keep hearing is im sorry. and you lying constantly.
me: well, sory is all i can say at this point. you have NO buisness in who im with and shit now, you broke up with me.
ryan: you act like i dumped you for no reason. i was always willing to work things out. and one thing led to another and you hook up with all of these people and tell me all these lies. blah blah blah. apparently you had other plans.."
today. my friend katie calls me up and says "ryan had sex with the girl he cheated on you with"
i go.. really? tahts cool. i dont care. i dont have the tears for it anymore. i dont know how. i just dont... it doesnt hurt me anymore. he is yelling at ME for hooking up with guys.. HOOKING UP? i should punch him in the face for having sex with that girl!
he texts my firend christie saying "BEING SINGLE IS AMAZING I CAN FUCK WHOEVER I WANT! i had no idea what i was missing. im sooo glad i broke up with her." ...immature much? he knew i was with her, thankfully i just droppd her off at her house 10 mins before he texted her....
i dont know what to say to him. but i want to make a closure... a nice, straight forward, a little bit bitchy closure. i deleted him off of facebook already... so, thats a start. i think im just gunna make a huge closure. but i need your help...telling him that i am done.
thank you in advance! :)
When I was answering your first question, I thought Ryan could eventually turn out to be a nice guy. Now it seems that is very unlikely to happen. I think you are being too serious about someone who does not deserve you. The text message that he sent to your friend Christie (I am assuming he really texted that and he meant what he texted), only shows his low grade mentality. I don't understand why you are so mad about him. You’re faltering constantly before your emotions. Please don't do that. I am alright with your nice, straightforward, and to some extent huge closure (ONLY IF YOU CAN SAY HIM PROPERLY) but I am not so convinced about being bitchy (I don't know what you meant by being bitchy). I think you should simply let him know that you have had enough of it and you are no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with him. I guess that should be more than enough. It is not really important for you to end this relationship with a huge closure but what is important is whether you have taken a lesson from the mistake you have made. From next time, choose the right person. If you are wondering, how you will know whether the person is right or not, well, it is very easy. Simply AVOID BEING PHISICALLY INVOLVED (as I mentioned in my previous answer). If you like someone and he likes you truly, he will be with you whether you have sex with him or not. Otherwise you will end up being used only for sex purpose (I am not being harsh to you but only telling you what I understand the truth to be). Hope that helps and may God bless you.
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you're one of my favorite coloumists (total spelling mistake)
thank you so much!
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