I live in Central Wisconsin. I am married and we have two daughters. In 1997 I earned my degree in psychology from the University of Wisconsin-Stevens Point. In my spare time I study psychology and philosophy.
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Location: Stevens Point, WI
Occupation: Phlebotomy Coordinator (Clinical Laboratory)
Age: 35
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Background info: Recently my dad has Started webcaming with "people" he has met online. He says that they are "guys" from other countrys that are nice nd he just talks with.
the other night i was sitting in the living room watching t.v && on my computor. my dad was also in the living room on his computor on webcam. He coverd the side of his face and I saw him blow the camra a kiss TWICE!. && the night before someone had sent him a kissy message the ones that make a kissy sound. I dont care what anyone thinks but I consider this cheating. weather its emotional cheating or actual sex cheating its still cheating.
Now im positive my mom doesnt know about this but I cant be the one to tell her.
Background info on my mom: Shes really old almost sixty has battled cancer for 6 years and if I tell her thiis She WONT be able to handle it i just know that....
Question: What do I do. I don't know how to handle this information. all I could do was cry. I was so mad that he would have the nerve to do that with me in the room. I dont even know if there is a right answer to what i should do but this has really emotionaly screwd with me. I have bad enough trust isues in relationships and now I just feel like theres absolutely no hope! what do i dooo please help. (link)
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As hard as it is for you to accept, your parents' relationship with each other is not your responsibility and not your business. The moment you get involved with your parent's marriage, you will find both of them resenting you: Dad will resent you for ratting him out, and Mom will resent you for being the bearer of such devastating news. You will get caught in the middle. What your dad is doing is wrong, but I'm mostly worried about you. Is there someone you trust that you can confide in? Someone close to the family might be able to give you more informed advice.
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I really apriciate yur message it finaly seems like teh answer ive been waiting for. I hated how everyone was telling me I have to confront him. well today he actualy confronted me and confermd my suspicions but he hasnt told my mom so im like ahhh and no there isnt really anyone i can talk tooo so Idk. writings my confidon
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