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Im a 20 yr old female and I have been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now. We have been living together for the past year. We have a pretty good relationship and for the most part, im happy. The main problem is I constantly get irritated because things arent "fair" or "equal". For example, my girlfriend will ask me to get her a drink and then shell ask me to get her a snack and then she'll ask me to get her a blanket and then she'll ask me to take the dogs out. And I'll do it all. But then I ask her to get me a drink and she will flat out say no and wont do it. And then I start getting irritated and angry because I feel like why should I do it for you when you wouldnt do it for me. She says I shouldnt expect things in return for the favors I do. I get so torn over it because part of me feels like shes right and its not right for me to get mad I should just do it because I love her and I shouldnt expect her to do it for me in return. But then a minute later i think that its crap and its not fair at all and if she loves me then she should do it for me. I would just like some opinions and advice because I feel like if I could get over my issue with this then our relationship would be so much better. Thanks alot. (link)
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There is always a solution to a problem. In this case it seems, not to offend, that there may be a lack of communication in your relationship. Now that we have identified the problem, the solution: A simple discussion as per what has been bothering you. Don't sugar coat it, just tell her how it is and how it is making you feel. After this discussion your GF should reply with "oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize this was how you felt, I'll try to be more aware of this issue in the future." Once you have made it this far, to encourage her and to test her listening capabilities, casually ask her to grab you, say, a glass of water. If she responds to your disliking then another talk may be needed to improve her listening capabilities. Please use this only as a guidline and feel free to change or modify anything in here to suit your liking.
I hope this helps, o^-^o
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I have talked to her about it and she just says that not everything is fair and I should do it because I love her not because I want something in return. But ill try talking to her again. Thanks.
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