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I love my boyfriend to death, but there's just a few problems... He's completely disrespecful. He takes me out to eat and doesn't even say thank you to the waiter for bringing us our food and drinks. And it's not just that. He works at the local grocery store and my parents went in there to get something and they asked him to help them look for something. He was just like "Duh it's right behind you." He may have been trying to be funny but it's not and it offended my parents very much. I don't want to dump him because I've never had feelings like this for any guy I've ever dated. I've spoken about it with him a million times. I don't know what else to do. I feel like that's my only option. Please Help me!

You have to understand that part of it isn't his fault. If he wasn't raised with good manners, he has no idea how to have them. I honestly think he was probably trying to be funny with your parents but it backfired. Another symptom of not being raised right. First thing I would do is talk to my parents about it. Tell them that you really love your boyfriend, but you can tell he wasn't raised with good manners. They may actually take it as a sign that they can help him with it. Parents are surprisingly great when you go to them for help becuase they love helping their kids more than anything. Then, you have to make it a point to teach him. Tell him that you are not asking him to change as a person, but he should at least show a little etiquette. Even go so far as to say that one day you want to have children and when you do it is going to be with a man who is going to think good manners are important. It sounds like he is really uncomfortable how to act around people so he turns to humor instead. Let him know that if he can't even bother to attempt to work on something that is so important to you, you are going to have to consider moving on.

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