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"If you have it [ Love ], you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, It doesn't matter much what else you have...",,,or so the saying goes. You see, I am in this relationship with a different nationality and religion as I am. We are both currently in a country where we are both expatriates. We've been together for more than one (1) year now. We both love each other, we have the normal quarrels that couples have. But deep in our hearts we love each other. We're like bestfriends where we can share each other anything, be there for each other no matter what. We have shared laughter and tears. But the thing is we both know that as soon as our visa expires and we are to go back to our respective countries, that would be the end of it. We both know it, its inevitable. It was hard for me to accept it before, until now actually, but slowly I have come to accept our situation. Thinking about our "doomed fate" made me feel a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. Some of you might say, "then why the heck are you still in the relationship?!?". The truth? I don't know. I guess its something you can call L-O-V-E? Pretty stupid and lame huh? Or it could be I'm scared to be alone in a foreign country where you cannot trust everyone that you meet. Or perhaps because of the special bond I share with this wonderful guy. Deep inside I know I should let go before I fall too deep-in-love and later I won't be able to recover from the excruciating ache and grief...
Yeah, you could get out of it before you both have to leave, but what will that be saving you from? So you won't have the sad goodbye at the end, but you will still feel the pain of losing him, and then after it is too late, you will spend a lot of time wondering what could have been. Breaking up now isn't going to save you from all of the pain, it is only going to let you feel like you were able to control things. If you stay together until it is time to part, you won't have control of the situation, where as if you break up now, you will. I say, if you love eachother, continue the realtionship for as long as you can-even after you both go back to your countries you can talk on the phone, email, whatever. If you break up now the future is certain, if you stay together who knows what will happen?
(Rating: 5) Thank you for answering my question, I appreciate it. You have pointed out some details that I haven't thought much about before.